A few days ago, I talked about winning and losing how it applies to life; although, I have a problem comparing winning and losing to life.
You can win and lose in sports; however, life is not a Game.
How do you win or lose in your marriage/relationships?
How do you win or lose in your finances?
How do you win or lose in your health?
These are essential questions that wherever you are in life, you may be doing good or poorly, success or failures; yet, every day is a new day.
Each moment comes with ups and downs.
How do you respond in those times when things are tough or there is some level of adversity?
Do you quit?
How do you quit in life?
What does that look like?
Does anyone care?
On the other hand, what do you do when times are good, and everything is great?
Do you look back and analysis your victory?
Do you look back and say how could I improve?
Throughout my military career, there were several wins and loses, successes and failures, however, the ability to humble myself and say how can I increase my physical fitness (although I’m not having a problem with physical fitness).
How can I increase my knowledge in the areas of my job? Although I just go promoted.
The ability to put wins and loses aside and focus on the process of getting better everyday is the point.
Michael Jordan said, “I would tell players to relax and never think about what’s at stake, just think about the basketball game. If you start to think about who is going to win the championship, you’ve lost your focus.
The quote by Jordan tells me that you have to stay focused on your goals in whatever you are doing at the moment.
Whether in a game or life, the focus should be on the processes, procedures or systems you put in place, not the outcome (will I pass or fail / will I win or lose).
Today, many people are worried about outcomes. Hell, as I’m writing this blog, I’m waiting on my Comprehensive Examination results in my Doctorate program. The keyword is results.
Getting better every day is the vision; passing the Comprehensive Examination is the goal.
Whether I win or lose (pass or fail), I produced a result, and what I do with those results matters significantly.
Nevertheless, (most people) don’t want to change when they’re winning.
If you believe you are winning in life. Okay, what does that look like? Are you still getting better?
Are you conducting a self-evaluation when you win?
People talk about losing a great deal and overcoming a loss; yet, its hard for most people to change when they’re winning.
So, you’re winning in life; yet, you’ve become so complacent in life you actually believe your own hype until you get knocked upside the head by life.
Life happens!
Don’t let yourself get complacent to the point that you take the relationships, finances, your health for granted.
Ask yourself if what I’m doing today will help me get closer to where I want to be tomorrow.
Remember, you can’t win today’s baseball game with yesterday’s homeruns.
The growth mindset is what I’m preaching (not whether I win or lose), the continuous perspective of getting better each day with your relationships, finances, health, business, etc….